THE GREEN MONSTER !!

The Green Monster:

Have you ever been attacked by a green monster that spits out a vile, offensive and venomous sputum, the after effects of which are untellable, leaving our inside and out burning in fire? Have you ever been able to ward off this unbearably painful strike?

Indeed these are sentiments first and then ailments that most of us experience regularly when the green obnoxious monster – JEALOUSY AND/ ENVY lick up all the goodness from our interiors. While envy and jealousy may be regarded as being two separate emotions stimulated by different causes, many a times, we may find an overlapping relationship between them. Jealousy is a milder version involving fear and anxiety of being ignored in the presence of another; it may also pertain to a low level of self-esteem and confidence and may be exhibited by people belonging to all age groups even a six month old kid as per research.   

Envy may be presumed a degree viler than jealousy as it tends to make the host desirous of robbing the other of a particular talent, skill, possession, status or relation. The affected may or may not also want to acquire that which the other possesses and in some cases may even will for the destruction of the object/individual igniting envy.    

Such emotions if contained within a reasonable frame of time and intensity may NOT be NEGATIVE at all. They may just come and go leaving us pondering over our weaknesses and our follies. Besides, they may even act as propellants for a varied sort of positive transformations. We all are born to err and supposing that we may never be affected by so and so sentiment is not only unrealistic but definitely sounds absurd.

A desire to be better than the other, to outdo, to finish first is very natural and can be carefully tended to and tamed if, from the very elementary levels of our lives we are taught the adequate ways of handling and overcoming them. Family undoubtedly stands out as the most important institution in tackling this matter followed by school, peers and eventually the society on a macro level.

How do we counter such feelings?

Let’s admit it to oneself; One way of dealing with it. Once you happen to realize the green monster releasing its venomous stench, be on your guard, identify why you harbor such a feeling and towards whom. Many a times we may be jealous or envious of someone because of our own weaknesses. Stop comparing yourself; learn to be content and thankful to God. There is this one thing called fate which undeniably masters our lives no matter what we do. Whether we like it or not, some of us may be good at something and some at others. Some might just be lucky while others may not receive the same rewards even after diligent sacrifices and efforts. Here acceptance may cure most of the illness and rid us of the ill will we possess for the other. A panoramic perspective of nature’s methods may rightly reveal that there is an equitable distribution of virtues and bounties based upon a person’s personal capabilities which only nature may be aware of. Regretting and possessing hate for the fortunate ones will only make us more vulnerable and incapable of even that which we once reveled and cherished in doing. In fact it may surely drown all the otherwise happy pieces we could have picked up on our way.

A lot of our positive traits may go waste if we become captive of this ever lurking monster. Nevertheless oceans of positive thinking and counseling can help us out of this pit. And the sooner we retrieve ourselves the better. And if you happen to come across any one infected by the bite of this ravenous monster, extending a helping hand  towards him/her would not only be a generous act on your part but would surely mend much of your own shortcomings.